Monday, January 19, 2009

Another dream came true

God's goodness never ceases to amaze me, encourage me, and fill me with thankfulness. I am blown away by the number of people that have shared their stories with me lately. These are stories of similar struggles and of similar miracles, and others have been people just encouraged by this/His little bean sprout.

I got this email a few weeks ago. It's beautifully honest and so real. I wanted to share not only this similar journey, but how God made another dream come true.
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Hey Sundee:)
I've been a frequent reader of your blog for a very long time, so of course, I've been following along as you wrote about your dreams for another baby. I've been meaning to write you about that for a long time, but I just never did it, and then this morning I found out that you're pregnant!

I cried when I read your post on Reece's birthday when you said, "You've now been here as long as we tried to have you here." I thought, "That's what I'll be thinking on my little one's second birthday."

We were without birth control for 2 years before I got pregnant. Even though our journeys have been different, I was always encouraged to read your blog before I was pregnant and know that you had gone through so much to have Reece.

The only thing I've ever wanted to do is be a mom, and when it didn't happen, I was devastated. I knew that we wouldn't be able to afford infertility treatments or adoption, so it seemed like the realization of my dream was a long way off, if it would ever happen.

In August of 2007, I had to finally just grieve the loss of my dream. I had to grieve it as though I had gone to a doctor and been told "We're sorry. You will never conceive" even though that hadn't happened. The way I describe it is that I had to grieve it in order to keep my joy -- I couldn't fake it anymore. I couldn't pretend like it didn't hurt every time someone else got pregnant, especially the "We weren't even trying! What are we going to do now?!" pregnancies :) I couldn't pretend that I wasn't keeping track of how long we'd been off birth control and try to convince myself it was still a reasonable amount of time. I had to just grieve it and say, "Okay, this dream of mine may not ever happen."

And then one day, when my period was late, and it had been 38 days since my last one, I finally thought "Okay, that's really late, and I'm going to take a test, even though I'm so sick of seeing only a test line" and lo and behold, there was that wonderful second line.

It really makes me relive all those moments to read your blogs, because the timing is so similar.

Anyway, I've been meaning to write for a long time just to say "I know our journeys are vastly different, but I do understand to a small extent what it is to think your dream will never come true" and now I'm so glad to be able to rejoice with you in realized dreams! :)

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And then in a follow up email a few days later:
I was thinking about you last night, as I did some scrapbooking -- I was scrapbooking our very first moments with our little girl, and I found a little card in my supplies that I bought years ago that says "Dreams can become reality" that I put on the first page of her book -- so glad our dreams have become reality.

Me too, sweet friend. Thank you for sharing your journey and your heart with me, and allowing me to share it with others.
And thank you, thank you, Lord, for another day.

2 comments:

Tara said...

just beautiful :)

Anonymous said...

I went to Damon's basketball game today ..and talking with Michell, she told me about this blog. Iam so sorry I didn't know about it before. It is truly a miracle for you and Darren (and of course, Reece)Anyway...the minute we got home, I hit the computer to read this most wonderful blog. You know I am so happy for the three of you. At night I walk Cassie and that is one of my special times to talk to the man upstairs. I always say one for you all and to keep this "beansprout"(now that I have a name for it") safe and healthy. Love you 3.3 so much.
Grandmama